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The "Plus One" Worry
Since we've finished our STDs...I've had a little anxiety. When Trev and I created our guest list, we went through it with both of our Moms and said... "Ok. These people will come. These people won't come, but they'd probably like an invite. These people might come." We over estimated a bit...I have a ton of family in Germany (my Mother's entire side...) and Trev has a ton of family in Illinois.... we anticipate that some will make the trip, but don't expect everyone to. Traveling is expensive! Especially if you're coming from Germany...
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We have already gone through and added "+1" for a bunch of our friends. We want people to have a great time - and have a buddy by their side while they're celebrating with us! My biggest fear is that the people who we didn't add "+1" to...will RSVP with a "+1."How do we handle this? I guess we have a ton of time....we're just getting ready to send our our STDs and we'll be sending out international invites late winter and local invites in the spring.
I'm just anxious. I guess this is normal. Is this fear normal? .....where's my Imodium?!??!?
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That spreadsheet is awesome! Can you email it to me or just email me the topics at the top please? Jenmb123@aol.com
ReplyDeleteOh yes, I have been thru this. 1st) My guest list was over 300 and we can only afford and accommodate 200. I had a bunch of people I didn't expect would come who suddenly told me they can't wait to be here (family of course). That really bummed me out because I had to bump some friends off the list to make room for family. Now I find out that a lot of the family I was told would come, will most likely not come. Still, my fear is that we will send out invites and either have too many guests respond yes and be over our space size or have a ton of people we thought would come say they can't make it.
ReplyDeleteTo compensate for this, we created a B list. We are sending our invites out 2 1/2 months before the wedding and asking guests to RSVP within 5 weeks. Then as the 'no' RSVP's roll in, we will bump someone from the B list up to the A list and send them an invite that has a later RSVP date on it since we won't have mailed theirs out as early. This way, we are sure not to go over our budget/limit and we can accommodate if we end up with a bunch of 'no' responses.
2nd) As far as the 'plus one' issue. On our reply cards, we added a line to the card that says "We have reserved ___1___ seat in your honor" Then below that, it gives them the opportunity to check if they are attending or not and how many are attending. You fill in the blank with how many you are inviting so if you have a family of four and only 2 of them are coming, you tell them you reserved 4 seats for them. A single guest you are allowing a plus one for will have 2 seats reserved for them. And a single guest with no plus one invited is only being reserved 1 spot. This way, it politely lets guests know, we don't plan on you bringing anyone. :)
Hope that helps out.
On our RSVP we are having "We have held __ seats in your honor" because I have friends that have RSVP'd for people who weren't invited. That's the only way we can do it, yah you have to fill out each one but I'd rather do that then have the awkward conversation.
ReplyDeleteThanks for all of your advice Ladies!
ReplyDeleteI think that I am going to use the "We have held __ seats in your honor" line on the RSVPs...since I am sending out STDs to everyone on the guest list...
:) e.
Wow that is a lot of people!
ReplyDeleteI know!!! It makes me nervous. We are fortunate to have large families...and lots of close friends.
ReplyDeleteWhen we went over the list with our families, my Dad said, "I thought you wanted a small wedding." My response was, "This is our small wedding..."
I think that it will shake out just fine. :)